Lacking confidence
A relationship is at its best when both partners feel healthy and confident within themselves.
It’s unfair, therefore, to bring unresolved issues and insecurities into your connection with your significant other.
Do your best to identify any areas where you feel stuck or low and work on it.
When you feel ready, it’s possible for you to have another go.
Moving too fast
You’ve met “the one.”
You’re sure of it this time (even though you were pretty sure last time, too)!
It’s only been a few months (weeks?!
), but it’s okay to start talking about marriage, right?
Don’t give in to those feelings of needing to rush.
Enjoy those early days of your relationship.
Savor everything while it is fresh and new and take the time to explore each other.
To a certain degree, it’s even normal to compare yourself to these predecessors.
Things can become negative pretty quickly, however, if you start obsessing over them.
Were they better looking?
More enjoyable as sexual partners?
Does your partner still think about them?
If not, you might want to take a breather and sort through some things.
In fact, it’s best to just be upfront about your preferences from the beginning to avoid surprises.
Pro tip: Tackle this one sooner than later and be proactive about it.
Continue to invest time in your interests.
Support the same causes and movements that you did before this relationship began.
This, of course, will only bring us down further.
Allow yourself a few moments to vent, if need be, and then move on.
Pro tip: Take a moment to think about the last time you and your partner spent time together.
How much of it did you spend complaining?
No matter what, make a conscious effort to look for the silver linings and your happiness may skyrocket.
Shutting down during important conversations
You’ve likely heard this before, but relationships take work.
Do you lack communication skills?
Does conflict intimidate you?
Usually, this will involve creating some boundaries that your loved ones will have to respect.
They should not show up unannounced if you live together, for example.
Think about how that would make you feel.
Since then, more than 11 million copies have been sold, so he was clearly on to something.
You may quickly realize how many small, beautiful gestures of love you’ve been overlooking.
It just doesn’t get much better than that.
