Charming people always seem to steal the show.
Have you evergone to a partyand met someone new who livened everything upandmade you feel understood and completely entertained?
Because the secret to being charming is that isn’t aboutyouat all.
It’s about the peoplearoundyou and how you makethemfeel.
You don’t even need to be a major extrovert you just have to care.
Here’s the real effortless way to always be charming.
(Spoiler alert: It takessomeeffort, but it feels good!)
Everyone loves to talk about themselves and their interests.
Okay, so how do you do that?
Tell me more about X."
And don’t worry about sounding like a parrot!
So your legs feel like rubber-bands now?"
If they nod, nod back.
Are they reaching for their drink?
Take a sip of your own.
If they cross their legs, cross yours.
Mirroring helps the other party feel understood.
If you want to be charming without trying too hard, make an effort to smile more.
When you smile, you’re telling others that you’re open to communication."
That said, not all smiles are created equal.
That said, you don’t need to only pay the other person attention.
Want to chat about yourself?
Making people around you feel great is beyond charming
Charming people aren’t just lively conversationalists.
They also have a way of making you feel warm and fuzzy and just plaingoodafter interacting with them.
To accomplish this goal, simply consider what you’d like the other person to feel around you.
That said, you may want people to feel differently depending on the context of your interactions.
Dr. Tessina advised, “Match your energy to the energy of the people at the event.
Obviously, if you’re dancing or eatingbarbecuepoolside, the energy level will be pretty high.
“International Man of Memory” Chester Santos recommended repeating the person’s name when you’re first introduced.
“On your quest to become effortlessly charming, practice respect.
Charming people should be present in the moment
A big part of being charming is being present.
So don’t fret about the future!
(aka “Dr.
Romance”), psychotherapist and author ofDr.
“Then, when someone wants to talk to you, you’ll have something to say.”
Notice who’s around you and what’s interesting or attractive about them.
Find an interesting thing about what they’re wearing, and compliment it.”
The key here isn’t a generic compliment like “Nice dress!”
For example, you could say, “What an interesting watch!
Where did you get it?”
Or you could say something like, “Thatpurple eyeshadowlooks incredible!
Do you always coordinate your makeup to your outfits?”
This is especially true if it’s your first time at a given event.
“If you haven’t experienced this event before, I recommend finding a ‘job’ to do.
Don’t just say ‘What can I do to help?’
The host or hostess will be grateful and remember you later.”
That’s just going to annoy them.
Your turn to share something charming will come!”
Do you have any shortcuts for that?"
“Be silly, be uncool, but just let yourself be genuine.
Peopleloveunique personalities,” Scott-Hudson toldThe Listabout being charming.
Let yourself love what you love!
If you have a dorky hobby or a nerdy obsession, allow yourself to enjoy your own interests!
It is boring to be cool all of the time."
This also means giving yourself permission to enjoy guilty pleasures without guilt.
“Love the Ren Faire?
Are you obsessed withLARPing?”
