If it hasn’t happened, you’re lucky.
Your heart’s racing.
The kiss… was not good.
You tell yourself you’ll give it time.
There’s a lot going through your mind, and that’s okay.
First thing’s first: If you’re wondering, “is it me?”
don’t get ahead of yourself.
Honesty is not the best policy here, according toYourTango.
Telling your man that his kisses are a turn-off too soon could easily backfire.
He might blame himself, he could get defensive, or this might turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The less said, the better.
Instead, demonstrate with your actions.
“Show him the way,” sex coach Amy Levine advises inGlamour.
Take it upon yourself to establish the rhythm.
Or just tell him you want to start slow, and go from there.
Again, it’s all you.
Does a bad kisser even exist?
When it comes to stating your needs, positive reinforcement can work best.
Don’t give up, and be sure to reward his attempts generously.
It’ll mean better kisses for you in the future.
There’s a mental component, too.
“The essence of the art of kissing stems from your loving attitude.”
Aaron Ben-Zeev Ph.D.writes forPsychology Today.
Thus, part of what makes a good kisser is completely abstract.
Ultimately, the thing that’s standing between you and true love is probably not a bad kiss.
The kisses can improve, the feeling might not.
If it doesn’t, be honest with yourself: was it really ever about the kissing?
